From the Road | That Desert Post by Lacey R Butler

yours truly exploring an abandoned home in the desert. Little B&e, but there wasn’t any actual breaking I did.

i thought i might find snakes or giant spiders but instead it’s just burros trying to get in my boots.

The day started at 4am and I found myself driving in the general direction of desert space.

the only actual leftover structure I found from some ghost town. there was a pond up there built into the rock, and then a whole lot of burro artifacts…..

I’m just a slightly crazy single lady exploring randomly. Case in point, google said I could hike the Motherlode Road” so I headed to what was just a random dirt road and trails leading toward a dry Coyote Lake… and while wandering that, someone drove out in his truck with his dogs to see what the hell I was doing. I gripped my pepper spray and my phone as if I could call 911. You never know. He said they don’t have many people just walking around out there.

Back on random roads, mixing into traffic heading to a military training center as I went to check out their “painted rocks”. Google didn’t mention the nature of the paintings… battalion and mission oriented Hoo-rah. Walking barefoot in my teal dress, I’m sure I made quite a weird sight for those heading to work. I like to think they might imagine me a hippie child, or a bereaved wife.. but of course I’m no one’s wife. .

And then I heading toward Copper City, the coolest ghost town name ever.

On my way there, I passed by the Liberty Sculpture Park, so you know I turned my happy butt around and waltzed up in there. What I found was a somber surprise: a cold-war era monument that seems rather important to consider right now. I don’t delve into politics as an active choice- a rabbit hole I hate to visit. So I’ll let you draw your own ideas from what you see. I posted the “Liberty” image and received likes from both sides of the main aisle… and I think we both know that checks.












seems like a good time to think about history, js.

I didn’t linger, and I didn’t look at everything there. I browsed and skimmed the writing, and as it was chilly in the early morning light, I jogged while I imagined this might someday be full of other viewers. A port-o-potty leaned nearby, waiting.

Onward to the desert. I was on the edge of the Mojave. The day before I’d passed through towns like Oatman, AZ, and fell in love not just with the wild donkey everywhere, but with the Black Mountains themselves. I was so tempted to pull over and sleep right there, and I may need to go back to get that experience. But driving through this old mining town made me eager to find a genuine abandoned town and explore it. Ghosts and all.

I headed toward Copper City with gusto and a lot of water. The drive to this town should have taken about an hour- 25 miles away and dirt/sand roads, so you have to go slow. And what is up with that waterboard texture that sand takes? Even at just an inch or two it makes the car shake violently, forcing you slow (or just stop, it’s not like you’ll be holding up traffic).

Pause to honor the first CRONUT I’ve ever had. Someone fried a croisant? How evil. I love it. I’m at Landmark Coffee, somewhere in SoCal.

Clearly I got out of the desert. But not before stumbling onto a ROAD CLOSED with about a 50 miles of barbed wire around it. And if you wondered how stubborn I am, I’m stubborn enough that I drove around that fence, stones and rocks be damned. Yes, there was another narrow “open road” nearby. About this time I had no cellular signal, but one of the maps maintains routes offline, thankfully. I saw I could probably connect again with the right road, and find my way to the ghost town of my dreams.

But that didn’t happen. I ran into one ROAD CLOSED and barricades and fences after another, though I persevered until it became clear no one else had gone any further in a 2WD. The cacti and grass there had grown tall enough to brush not just the underside of my Kia, but also scrape her sides a bit. Thank God for that thick coating of dust, amiright? Maybe I didn’t get many new scratches… But the rocks were large enough I had to stop.

this is a completely passable example of an “open road”, not one of those… two-hands-gripping-the-steering-wheel-for-dear-life sort of bumpy ones.

I got out of my car because I had this weird desire to wash my hair in the desert. I was still next to a “warning no entry” barbed wire fence and some mention of the gov’mnt owning it, but I thought why not. I was going to hunt up my shampoo when for the first time I heard absolutely terrifying booms from underground nearby. Suddenly I was part ghost, levitating in the air as I screamed for mercy and ran back to the drivers seat.

no idea, but I think those are bullet holes

I took a different route away from that fence, mostly in hopes it might be an easier route. Stumbling on a dry lake bed for the second time that day, but this one I was able to drive right up to! Hesitating only briefly enough to walk a few steps and confirm it was solid dried mud, I drove my gorgeous, strong as an ox Kia Soul around and around, spinning in circles, slightly slow only because they do have a roll risk… and I could see tracks of others, too, and I had so much fun! I sat a while, too, parked in teh dead center, legs akimbo and in a long dress and I just… liked where I was. I liked the silence, and the lack of people, the solidness of the ground, the newness of it all.

It was a wonderful moment.






Finding my way back to a road at this point was difficult. I almost got stuck more than once, but managed to drive in reverse, roll the car up and down waves of sand. It was glorious, I felt like the military might see my driving skills and come recruit me for something important.

And then there it was! A trail and I was heading toward an actual “open road” that made the map! And oh my god, I saw another car, the first human in an hour at least… we ended up chatting a bit, and they were looking for petroglyphs, which I soon found just after passing them, I don’t think they drove far enough. I wished I could tell them to come back, but instead I just crawled around the rocks some by myself, worrying for snakes. I admired then began to step over this carving and I have to say I had the most strange feeling as I straddled it, choosing to go back to the ground instead. I’m not saying the rock had an energy to it, but.. maybe.

petroglyph in the desert

i think it used The Force


That was about the end of the day because I gouged a tire as I took to actual street pavement about 30 minutes later. Thankful for AAA, they were fast! 2 new back tires to match the two front ones I bought the very day before, not a very exciting way to end the day but by dark I found a nice space to camp overlooking the mountains and here we are.



california is lit up man

California needs to turn the lights down

Off to reserach San Diego while my phone downloads all 350 new photos since Feb 17…

These are all mixed up but I’m eager to move from this coffee shop… I am in Phoenix area today and of course about two days behind on posting. There’s so much to see and do! xoxo

the milky way isn’t my favorite candybar, but it sure makes a nice sky.

Mount Airy Farm by Lacey R Butler

The venue’s reflecting pond is often still and perfectly glassy, but we had a nice breeze that day, keeping everything the perfect temperature. Frankly, this year has been high on the alt-weather and I am sure I speak for everyone when I say I’m just grateful it was dry! What a stunning day,!

We (Videographer, one of Rachael’s cousins and myself, maybe the groom too?!) gasped when her dress did this amazing swoop, perfect for a twirl. What a charming bride!

The goodboy himself, making sure all is right in their world. <3

The couple met… at a park, for real. Rachael’s dog truly was a ring bearer, paving the way to a conversation that led to romance.. and now he is a family VIP for sure.

The bride brushing tears away at the private first look, pre ceremony. A joy to witness their mutual bliss!

STUNNING.

The flowers were done by an amazing team.. I will add the name here when I get it. And the Videographer was pretty easy to work with, something that cannot be said for all (and yes I know they say it about photographers, we do the same thing in a way and want the same space and it’s a challenge sometimes. A relief to work with a videographer that was patient and let me lead and then I let him do what he needed to and politely didn’t use my flash so he could not freak out about the light ruingin his shots.

This wedding absolutely blew me away. For one thing, as it’s at an AirBnb, and small key elopement, I expected… what I’ve seen before which is a very quiet large dinner part type thing where I almost feel like a guest myself, chatting, mingling and taking photos of guests. This was not. This was a full fledged miicro-wedding with friends and loved ones. I think the nearest of the dearest, for sure, those that they know will always be in their corner, supporting them. The idea that so much love and support are available to them within their own families is amazing to me.

VENDORS:

PHOTOGRAPHY: Lacey Renae Photography

Videography: Weddings by LDF (Matthew)

STRING QUARTET: Stephanie Quinn Music

CATERING: Cracker Jack Chef

CAKE: Kristie Van Winkle

FLORISTS: Kristie Van Winkle, Emily Creel and Anna Vermuth

VENUE: Mount Airy Farm

Thank you to the newlyweds, the vendors and their guests for what became one of my most favorite weddings to date. I can’t wait to see and hear about them more.. and now I go back to the editing!

<3 Best wishes!

Proposal at Sunset by Lacey R Butler

This amazing couple! I am so behind in sharing my work but guess who is getting married this weekend and I get to be their photographer?! Yep. These two!

Not only does this image have sincere emotion in the moment, but check out that sky! When you see alternate weather, keep in mind that bright light can be harsh on humans and washes everything out! And also the sky holds TEXTURE with clouds. I’m about it.

Rachael was given a bouquet AND an amazing ring!!

Personally love this. Do you? It’s a dream….

happy dog is going to be at the wedding too! I’m so excited to work with another amazing puppers!

NC Arboretum by Lacey R Butler

The first thing I learned this day is that my weather app is about the least reliable in the history of ever. I parked a couple blocks up to walk over to the hotel for getting ready shots only to find out it was not in fact going to be a clear day for a garden wedding at the Arboretum for Loren and Allan. I for sure was way more upset about walking in the rain to my car then Loren would show the entire day. Not only beautiful but seriously… I think she was marrying Allan because she loves him and could not care less about the weather or where they did it. I never saw her show any feelings about the weather for one second! I was so moved by that.

I know, I don’t post for months and months (feels like a year) and then wham, two in one week. It’s funny how I love actually documenting weddings, working with the people and witnessing all the emotions.. but working the business end has never been my forte. I don’t dig trying to BE hired or finding clients or any aspect of operating my own business other than having no boss. Kinda ironic. But at the end of the day I try very hard to provide creative, timeless images that show authentic relationship dynamics, artistically using the provided lighting when possible and supplimenting when I have to.. like this wedding, mostly indoors.

I love these.. is this Lisianthis? SO perfect.

You know what, maybe absolutely nothing in life can be predicted with any certainty. We just have to roll with what we get and make the best of it, and live life to the fullest. I absolutely LOVED this wedding because of the attitudes of everyone who was present- the staff at the Arboretum also worked so hard to help things flow naturally. And to the lovely officiant.. I still have your brolly’s…

Sky Retreat by Lacey R Butler

The weather corrected itself twice on August 7th at Sky Retreat, up near Boone, NC. Jordan and Abbi were able to move their chairs back down to the helipad area for the ceremony without a raindrop touching down- which I would not have guessed given the blustering sideways rain pummeling the groom during the first look. He didn’t bat an eye, no kidding!

And then again later for the scheduled sunset photos- just when we’d said ok, we won’t get a sunset sky, the clouds again parted and pinks and purples and golds sang across the sky. It was, no kidding.. just dreamy.

Cannot beat this view, the storm clouds tucking in like they are ready to nap and all the while they highlight those mountain tops. Could not be happier with this view!

In writing, they have a saying… “Kill your darlings” and though many have said it I think of it like the opposite of the iceberg method- I’m just putting it all on the table here. I think about should I delete this image but then I’m like, no, little image I have made, go be weird and see if they love you anyway.

Thank you for allowing me the chance to create with you and witness your love! I am grateful for a good vendor team- I will have to add the name of the videographer soon as I find the card he gave me.

Sky Retreat was a gorgeous view! I would recommend it for a destination wedding with modern landscaping, stunning open areas, perfectly maintained hydrangea, and quaint cabins for your guests to stay onsite.

Proposal on the parkway in winter by Lacey R Butler

A very real moment for these two..

Taking advantage of the road closure.

I know, it doesn’t match the vibe of the other images but backlighting in early morning is this color. I try to do natural tones and I think it’s pretty beautiful. What do you think?

Not saying you should or I would…. but I did and you could.

Seriously want to be her friend- a chick that wears faux fur teddy bear coat hiking? heck yeah!!

In all the universes, I’d choose you. In any life, I’d choose you. Every day, I choose you.

…I”m lost in a moment here. If you would like to do a natural surprise proposal for the love of your life, PLEASE reach out. I’m happy to help coordinate it, I’m very flexible and I’m clearly in love with celebrating your life. xoxo

Micro-wedding at Stone Ashe Vineyards by Lacey R Butler

I ADORED this couple and this venue. Stone Ashe Vineyards is located in the rolling hills beyond Fletcher, NC and Hendersonville. One of those spots just out of the city but so unusual to get to you wonder if you’re actually going the right way. The grounds were perfect, the staff so helpful.. and best of all the newlyweds brought joie de vivre. My favorite vivre of all.

As per usual I’m showing you a cross hair of the collection- details, happy smiles, moody looks. The wine was overflowing, the bees a-buzzin at work, and the couple generous enough to share a drink with me. Thank you for everything, V and J!

The goodboys on the property, by the way, were coersed to do this. They are totally obviously uncomfortable with me posing them looking like they want cake. Just… for the record. I still like this idea though.

This single lady made the amazing cake. Let me see if I can find her info… nope. Please reach out if you know! After a year I have no idea anymore. It was so amazing. I think out of Maryland.

Hi my name is Lacey and I’m a wedding photographer and I took this photo. And also black and white is the best.

I only had a few sips before someone <strike>stole</strike> absconded with my wine which was fair because I “borrowed” theirs for a photo op and then the staff cleaned it up. My bad.

Wine tastings for your group, amazing charcuterie, attentive staff, the view. Did I mention the view? We were supposed to leave for another location for portraits but the couple was having too much fun to leave and this was at least as beautiful anyway.

I couldn’t resist one more image as I drove back home. Always so bittersweet to go, but so happy to have been there a few moments of your life together. <3 Lacey

Bachelorette Party by Lacey R Butler

I’m going to be trying to catch up on events I didn’t get to share last year. This was an unusual one for me! The Maid of Honor arranged a witchy vibe Bachelorette party in the mountains. Everything lined up, the clouds lifted, the sun absolutely graced us, and the girls had fun! We basically had to trip back down the mountain in the dark with about 50 other people.

bachelorette party photo

There were a ton more pictures, to include individuals and small group images but these are my favorite. I also try to do portraits but also some more realistic images of people being fun and funny and themselves and I think we did that here. What do you think?